“It’s
almost every girl’s dream to be swept
off her feet by her beloved one and being popped
the question,
“Will you marry me?” Best
if this is done with some flair and creativity….”
How
ready are you for marriage?
The two of you are in
love and life seems endlessly wonderful! Marriage
appears to be the next step. But wait: are you
really all that ready for marriage just because
you are in love
MARRIAGE is a serious and lifelong commitment
not always a romantic movie or “happily
ever after” fairy tale. When a marriage
works, it can be a satisfying and fulfilling
aspect of adult life. But being in love and
wanting a successful marriage are not enough.
Here’s a checklist of three vital questions
to help you assess your readiness for marriage.
Why
do you want to get married?
You truly love your chosen partner and want
to be part of that person’s life:
you want to work together, have fun together,
and share all things in life, including the
joy of having children and bringing them up
together.
You are fully prepared to make a commitment
with someone you love.
These are some healthy and mature reasons for
wanting to get married.
Do you understand what marriage is?
Marriage
is learning to live with another person in an
intimate manner, being aware of your spouse and
his/her needs, and the willingness to help and
make sacrifices for a happier and more fulfilling
married life. Marriage requires couples to operate
as a team, not as individuals. New couples will
have to discuss and make joint decisions on issues
like:
Where will they live?
How will household responsibilities
and expenditures be managed?
How to adjust to each other’s
family?
When to start a family and
how will children be raised?
All this and more is what it takes to really share
life with someone in a meaningful way, for marriage
is a commitment of two persons.
How
ready are you for marriage?
Who are you going to marry?
Try
to understand the moral values and personal
background of your partner and assess whether
it is compatible with your own.
Do you both have non-conflicting goals in life?
Do you both share similar expectations of and
values on family, children and finances?
Can you visualize growing old with your partner?
The romantic love that couples bring into marriage
may diminish through the years and the notion
of love itself will change in some fashion. People
in general do change and so will you and your
partner. Couples will need to adjust to these
changes for harmonious living.
You
are ready for marriage if:
you
both want to get married for the right reasons.
you understand fully the responsibilities and
obligations you are committing yourself to.
you have realistic expectations of married life
and your partner as a person with both strengths
and shortcomings.
Having decided to marry, you should prepare
yourself for married life.
| Source:
Wedding Online (www.weddingonline.com.my) |
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